Have you ever been or are you in a committed relationship and your man shuts down on you? Runs away from you? Or even ghosted you?

Have you ever been or are you in a committed relationship and your man shuts down on you? Runs away from you? Or even ghosted you?


If you have experienced this I am here to remind you, it's not about you. And if you are the empathic woman I want to reassure you even more that your heart is big and it's not your fault. Again, I need to say it again, it's not your fault. Psychologically, the affects of this behavior causes the woman to be triggered by abandonment, insecurities, and self-inflicted blame.

But it's has nothing to do with you my love. You dared to love and go into it believing in the best.

You went into the experience seeing the man before you as what he "can be", his potential self. The empathic woman sees the man before her in his higher form and believes he will become that. But the truth is, if he shuts down, if he leaves you, or if he ghosted you he is not that.

Instead, his current state is this. You evoke something out of him that makes him feel uncomfortable. You are mirroring wounds in himself that he didn't even know he had because he has suppressed them for so long. The reason why he is running away is because he needs to find relief from all the emotions that he was not brave enough to face. He might even blame you for his emotions.

But the aware man would know that only he is responsible for his emotions. The aware man would know that when he is truly in his masculine, you are a gift to him. You are a gift to him because you are shining light on what still needs healing. The true masculine man would honor your feminine presence in his life because you continue to give him love. He would have the knowing that relationships are there to help him grow and become a fuller expression of himself.

So I am here to remind you women out there. It is not about you. You are not to blame. You are a gift. We are only here to serve each other. And in serving each other, we are shining light on all that needs more healing.

To my empathic woman who is brave enough to continue loving, know that you have affected his heart with the that love you gave him and he will always remember you.

It was never about you.

Xo